Post on 20-Mar-2017
FRIENDSHIP BY: SEAN TRAVIS
Technology plays a role in friendships by : • Establishing • Reinforcing • Complica>ng • Damaging
TYPES OF EVERYDAY PEER NEGOTIATIONS
• MAKING FRIENDS
• PERFORMING FRIENDSHIPS
• ARTICULATING FRIENDSHIP HIERARCHIES
• STATUS, ATTENTION, AND DRAMA
MYSPACE -‐ FACEBOOK
WAYS HOW EVERYDAY PEER NEGOTIATIONS OCCUR
MAKING FRIENDS “TEENS MAY SELECT THEIR FRIENDS, BUT THEIR CHOICE IS CONFIGURED BY THE
SOCIAL, CULTURAL, AND ECONOMIC CONDITIONS AROUND THEM.” • Most teens use social media to
socialize with people they already know while a small % of others use social media to meet knew people.
• Facebook or MySpace is an easy way to do so.
• “Hanging out” occurs within this social media
• Should teens venture out to meet new teens online or is that too dangerous for “Stranger Danger?”
MAKING FRIENDS CONT.
• Personally, I find random friend requests strange and creepy. I believe in mee>ng new people but online is not the way to do so, I believe in “Stranger Danger.” Don’t feel judged, be yourself!!!
• Perhaps some people are too shy or too nervous to make friends in the class room or face to face, therefore they strive to make online friends where they are more comfortable.
PERFORMING FRIENDSHIPS “Friends in the context of social media are not necessarily the same as friends in
everyday sense.”
• Facebook, AIM and MySpace play a big role in this concept of friends.
• Facebook-‐how many friends you have. AIM-‐Your “buddy” list. MySpace-‐Friends that follow your page and who you follow.
• Teens must determine their boundaries concerning whom they accept and whom they reject as friends. Do you accept random people or do you keep social media to close friends and family?
PERFORMING FRIENDS CONT. • By choosing who you allow to
become “Friends” with, you run the risk of offending people.
• A girl named Jennifer from Kansas accepts everyone as her friend because “She’d feel bad if she didn’t.”
• Penelope from Nebraska says “dele>ng a friend is rude…unless they’re weird.”
• By declining or dele>ng a friend they person asking might feel lea out or not “cool” but you as a person need to protect your privacy.
• It really is a personal decision on
who you allow to see your profile. Just remember, anyone can friend request anyone and the internet is worldwide. Think what is best for yourself.
FRIENDSHIP HIERARCHIES “A friend connec>on alone says nothing about its strength.”
• I found this interes>ng because I can see how easily it can create controversy and stress between friends.
• Par>cularly with MySpace you have your “top friends” or your “top 8.” the site makes you choose who your “bestest” friends are and displays it for everyone to see.
• “Top friends surfaces insecuri>es by forcing teens to face where they stand in the eyes of those around them.”
• For example, your “BFF” didn’t get the number one spot on your list, so he/she picks a fight with you because of that.
FRIENDSHIP HIERARCHIES CONT. • Many teens think that if your
number one on a friends list, then they should be number one on your list.
• Jordan from Texas says, “Oh, its so stressful because is your in someone else’s top friends, then you feel bad if they’re not in yours.”
• This creates stress for young teens and possibly friendship breakups. I think the top friends list should be eliminated all together.
Status Aden>on and Drama • “Teens use social media to
develop and maintain friendships, but they also use them to seek aden>on and generate drama.”
• Most teens seeking to spread rumors or create drama usually use social media.
• GOSSIP, GOSSIP, GOSSIP!!! • Gossip occurs everywhere and
with technology today, it can get spread, shown or talked about very easily and quickly now.
• AIM, Facebook and MySpace all are used for gossip.
• AIM-‐ People can talk to each other in complete conversa>on
• Facebook-‐ People can post status’ and post informa>on that pops up on newsfeeds and “chat” as well.
• MySpace-‐People can post all sorts of things on your own page or other peoples pages as well.
• Rumors or everyday talk can go viral in an instant which can lead to aden>on seekers, bullying, harassing, or even depression.
STATUS, ATTENTION AND DRAMA CONT.
• “Teens want to be validated by their broader peer group and thus try to present themselves as cool, online and offline.”
• When teens are harassed online, it is oaen by people they know offline. • Gossip, drama, bullying and posing are unavoidable side affects of teens
everyday nego>a>ons over friendship and peer status. • We have all been through our teens. I think everyone has bullied or been
bullied. We know what it is like to want aden>on and to honestly get jealous. It is called being a teen. Now that we are all older and wiser we should help the cause of these teenage reputa>ons.
REFERENCES… • Allan 1998 • Lenhart and Madden 2007; Subrahmanyam and Greenfield 2008 • Corsaro 1997, 164 • Boyd 2006 • Boyd 2008 • Thompson, Grace, and Cohen 2001, 62 • Milner 2004
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